BOOTCAMP RC R3

Directions for questions 1 to 4: The passage given below is followed
by a set of four questions. Choose
the most appropriate answer to each question.
The man with passive aggressive behavior needs someone to be the
object of his hidden hostility. He
needs an adversary whose expectations and demands he can resist as he
plays out the dance he learned
from his parents. He chooses a woman who will agree to be on the
receiving end of his disowned anger. He
resists her in small ways setting up a pattern of frustration so that
she gets to express the anger that he
cannot.
The biggest irritant in being with a passive aggressive man is that he
doesn't follow through on his agreements
and promises. He dodges responsibility while insisting he's pulling
his weight. He procrastinates, takes on
big projects but doesn't finish them then feels put upon or hostile if
someone else tries to finish them. He
often ignores reality as to his irresponsibility and withdrawal. He
denies evidence, distorts, minimalizes or
lies to make his version of reality seem logical.
He uses vague language to sandbag the partner. Inconsistency and
ambiguity are his tools of choice. He
often gives double messages and expects his partner to read his mind
and meet his needs saying 'She
should have known how it is.' He withholds information and has a
hidden agenda. He can't take criticism
and makes excuses to get himself off the hook. He sulks and uses
silence when confronted about his
inability to live up to his promises, obligations or responsibilities.
When he doesn't follow through, he puts
the blame on his partner so he doesn't have to take it and accuses her
of having the problem.
He may have multiple relationships with women as a way of keeping
distant from one fully committed
relationship. He is confused about which woman he wants and stays
caught between the two women in his
life not being able to commit fully to either. He is confused and
can't understand why the women get so
angry with him. He feels others demand too much of him so resists in
overt and subtle ways and feels
deprived if he must give in to others. The man who copes with conflict
by not being there has strong conflict
over dependency. He desperately wants attention but fears being
swallowed up by the partner. He can't be
alone and live without a woman in his life, but can't be with the
partner emotionally. He's caught in a Catch
22—wanting affection but avoiding it because he fears it as his
destruction. He resents feeling dependent
on the woman so must keep her off guard. He makes his partner feel
like a nothing through his neglect or
irritability but he keeps her around because he needs her. His script
is 'Be here for me, but don't come too
close and don't burden me with your needs or expectations.'
He has such strong fears of intimacy deep in his unconscious mind so
he must set up barriers to prevent
a deep emotional connection. He is clever at derailing intimacy when
it comes up by tuning out his partner
and changing the subject. He must withhold part of himself to feel
safe and may withdraw. Closeness and
intimacy may make him feel vulnerable and panicked bringing forth his
deepest fears of dependency upon
a woman. The passive aggressive man lives an internal loneliness; he
wants to be with the woman but
stays confused whether she is the right partner for him or not. He is
scared and insecure causing him to
seek contact with a partner but too scared and insecure to fully commit.

1. Which of the following would be an apt theme for the passage?
(a) The behavioral tendencies of a passive aggressive man.
(b) The way in which the passive aggressive man treats a partner.
(c) The reasons for a man's passive aggressive behavior with a partner.
(d) The object of the affection of a passive aggressive man.

2. Which of the following cannot be inferred as a characteristic of
the passive aggressive man?
(a) An unrealistic assessment of his own capabilities.
(b) A feeling of anger, which is not openly displayed.
(c) A tendency to send out mixed signals to a partner.
(d) A need for attention along with a fear of intimacy.


3. The tone of the passage is:
(a) Narrative (b) Analytical (c) Derogatory (d) Descriptive


4. According to the passage, which of the following can be inferred as
a cause of passive aggressive
behaviour?
(a) The lack of responsibility, along with the desire to frustrate
others and create anger in them.
(b) The deep-rooted fears about intimacy with a woman, which would
later cause pain.
(c) The fear arising from the belief that intimacy and emotional
connection can lead to dependency
and destruction of self.
(d) Lack of intimacy with parents, which results in fears of intimacy
with others.